World Leading Psychologist ON Why You’re FAILING and Why Discomfort Will UNLOCK Success | Adam Grant

How to Face Discomfort

• The evidence shows that people who are given the goal of intentionally feeling uncomfortable sometimes end up growing more from that experience.
• You should put yourself in a deliberately uncomfortable situation because it would open you to a much steeper learning curve than doing an easy situation.

What do you need to be better at?

• What’s the one thing that’s holding you back from a goal that you care about or a value you’re trying to pursue?
• What’s an area of passion or curiosity that you’re excited to spend more time investing in?
• Instead of asking for feedback, it’s often better to seek advice.
  • feedback leads people to think about what you did right or wrong yesterday.
  • advice helps people what they can do better tomorrow.
• When receiving feedback and advice, you might feel overwhelmed by the volume of suggestions and potential improvements. The natural response could be to withdraw, thinking it's impossible to address everything. However, feeling overwhelmed should actually motivate you to seek even more feedback. The more input you gather, the easier it becomes to distinguish between individual preferences and genuinely valuable insights. By collecting diverse perspectives, patterns will emerge – helping you identify which suggestions represent common themes worth prioritizing versus those that reflect personal taste. Start by gathering extensive feedback, then focus your efforts on addressing the recurring themes that surface across multiple sources.

The Trick of Gaining Self-Confidence

• Care enough about other people’s reactions to learn from them, but not so much that I feel pressured to conform to them.
• Decide whose opinion actually matters to yourself.
• The research shows when you make a mistake you‘re more likely to remember the correct answer.

How to Succeed without Perfection

• Psychologist study regret found that in the short run people are afraid of FAILING but in the long run people are more afraid of failing to TRY.

Is Self Promotion Bad?

• Idea promotion is saying you made something you’re proud of, I hope it’s valuable to others and get enjoys out of it, and if you don’t put that out of the word, you’re depriving people of benefiting from what you poured your heart into.

Adding Values to Others’ lives

• If you afraid your ideas getting stolen, if you have one big idea and you’re afraid of putting it out there because you think someone else is going to steal it, then don’t have a lot of idea.
• People who generally succeed with ideas are people who constantly generating ideas.
• You should generate a portfolio of ideas.

The Secret to Success

• Learning character skills can be more powerful than learning cognitive skills.