The Art of Living a Courageous Life

This Approach to Success is Everything

• Model the rise, not the result. Don't study the result; study what the person was doing when they were on their way to achieving it.
• If you're not taking enough to sin or miss the mark to fail, then what are you doing?
• Inner citadel: if you can't get what you want, you teach yourself to want what you can get.

The Mindset That Will Change Your Outlook on Life

• Owner's mentality vs renter's mentality
• The price that people pay to be somebody that you admire is one of the most fascinating questions.
• We are more in need of Icarus in reverse; most of us are turning back, and it's 45 degrees Fahrenheit. We're not even close to getting hot, too close to the sun. You didn't make it nearly as far as you thought you did or as far as you could go.

How To Find Significance in the Noise

How do you advise the perennial overthinkers to get below the neck?

A: record themselves overthinking. Found out that most of it isn't significant at all.

• If everything is significant, you're missing the main thing.
• Don't half ass it.
• Inverse charisma

The Difference Between a Nice Guy and a Good Man

A nice guy gets along. They don't necessarily have discernment or judgment. Not sure what they stand for or stand against. A good man has ideals that they stand for, and they'll stand against them when they're tested. A good man is not a nice guy.

Being a good man is a lot harder for a good reason. Not going to be the most popular, not going to be always affable, it also doesn't mean you have to be a dick or an asshole. It just means sometimes you've got to go. I believe in this, but is this for me, or is that not for me? If you trespass into my space and that of my family, I will do my best to cause consequences. And I'm going to let you know that.

Principles Matthew Refuses To Compromise On

• The people who most need to hear the message are often the ones who are least likely to hear it. And when you scatter gun it across everyone, you can actually not reduce the bad incidents you're trying to get rid of, and further reduce the good that you were hoping to hold on to.
• Type A people with type B problems and type B people with type A problems.
• Advice that's given en masse is sometimes right even for the majority, but will be absorbed asymmetrically. If you give everybody the same supplements, some people will be hyperresponders, and some people will not respond at all. And sometimes the hyperresponders are the people who didn't need it already.
  • e.g., In the MeToo thing, the men who really needed to heed the message not to be pushy are precisely the men that message will not work on. And the men who are most likely to take to the heart are the ones who probably needed a bit more encouragement to go up to that girl in the bar.

Why Living Better Outweighs Living Longer

• Are we measuring the quality of life along the way?
• Profit measures quality with quantity. So the real success is when you have a profit. A really great longevity would be for those quality years, quality time left in life.
• An obsession with the number can sometimes get in the way of seeing more of an obsession with the quality and the meaning of what we're doing right here. What's now and tomorrow?

How to Build Confidence

• It definitely comes from belief, not hope. It comes from pulling something off. Comes from, oh, I think I've got an ability to do that.
• A fantastic new definition of vulnerability. Vulnerability is saying your truth despite the consequences, especially when they're scary. (Actually means you're going forward instead of setting back)

How to Stop Worrying & Trust the Process

• Without complacency, trust that the time is on your side.
• Time is on our side, and we're forced to think and feel especially today, with how fast things move, that more productivity, faster pace, more information, it's better.

• It's going to happen, and since it's going to happen, and that's non-negotiable, might as well go, well, I'm not going to rush to try and make more of it than there is.

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