Life After Olympia: Fatherhood, TRT & Finding Purpose

Why you start something typically changes over time, and why you start something might have driven you, but now if it drains you, it's time to reevaluate what you're doing.

It's All About Rise, Not the Result

• Modeling somebody's rise, not their results.

The problem is you almost certainly are at the beginning of your career, and they're the person at the top of the mountain, they might be able to remember what they were doing 6 month ago, or right now and the challenges and the very particular sort of unique elite stratosphere that they're in that they need to deal with, but they can't remember what it was like to be a beginner, so when you ask somebody what is the key to success in somewhere, their answer might fit their current stage but not what they actually did or experienced when they were in their start stage which is the stage that actually close to your situation.

You don't know what you've got until it's gone.

You don't know what you value until it starts to decrease a little bit.

What If Chris Hadn't Won?

If Chris hadn't won, would he still have retired?

Chris: I would like to believe that I would have retired.

How to Work Through a Loss of Direction

What would you say to anybody who's lost direction in life in the way that you have?

Chris: I'm still in the midst of it, but I do believe it will be for the better. I feel like the path I was on wasn't the best for me, so if I stayed on that path, I might not be lost, but I'm not discovering anything else. And at least in being lost, you might discover something new that's better or different but still good.

Being lost is an opportunity to stop, slow down, and reflect on where you truly want to go.

Telling yourself it's okay to be lost right now, it will get better, and you'll figure it out and do what you can, fill yourself up right now, learn who you are in the season of life, just trust that whatever will come will come.

Unteachable Lessons You Have to Experience First-Hand

Unteachable Lessons

The types of insights in life that you can't accumulate without learning for yourself firsthand.

For example:

• Money won't make you happy
• Fame won't fix your self-worth problem
• You don't love that girl; she's just hot and difficult to get
• You should see your parents more
• You don't need to work so hard

It sounds like a luxury belief; it's easy to say when you have those things.

However, it's also a luxury dream to think that attaining those things would fix your problem, e.g., thinking money will fix your problems and happiness.

People on both sides would be jealous of each other; one side wishes to have the other side's hope (e.g., Money can make you happy), on the other side wishes to have their situation.

Firstly, if something has been repeated enough times to be obvious and trite, it might be because there's some truth in it.

Secondly, if it's not true, why does almost everyone who reaches this kind of destination so reliably start to proclaim it like they've just gone through fucking religious revelation?

It's easier to do the things that you want to do so that you no longer need to do them than it is to try and release yourself of the desire overall.